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Re: Jealous people
by Graham on Wednesday 02/Jan/2002, @06:08
Don't let them get you down! I agree, they are just being sour, and as someone above said, stories get on this page when they are interesting enough and they are submitted!

Anyway, now it is on Slashdot, so it obviously is of interest to enough people!
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Re: Jealous people
by angela on Thursday 08/Jan/2004, @13:14
jelous people tend to have very insecure minds and are secretly unhappy. i think whats even more worrying is not only can they admit the truth to others, but they cant admit the truth to themselfs. they hate people who find success in their life because they feel they have to compare themselfes to that person. many of my friends hate skinny people, but deep down want to look like this. they may also be really defensive in a situation and can go to the extreme of making others their poccessions. i hope if there is anyone insecure who reads this message knows that knowone hates them , but would like to help.
admitting your in the wrong can be the hardest thing to do, but it can save you from being insecure about everything. if you confront your fears then people will notice this and be happy that you have secured the inner you.
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Re: Jealous people
by dj on Wednesday 17/May/2006, @20:36
Yeah, I understand this issue very well. There are a few jealous people in my family. These people are angry at the fact that my mother and her sister have accomplished something with their lives. They know that we have money and act as if were are close as a family. I hear what they say behind our backs.
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Re: Jealous people
by dj on Wednesday 17/May/2006, @20:36
Yeah, I understand this issue very well. There are a few jealous people in my family. These people are angry at the fact that my mother and her sister have accomplished something with their lives. They know that we have money and act as if were are close as a family. I hear what they say behind our backs.
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Re: Jealous people
by B. Allen on Wednesday 28/Jun/2006, @01:01
I am one of seven sibliing. Only one out of the family completed college. I support my family very much. However, I am the youngest. Not mention I paid my own way through college, working full time and attend college at night. graduated as Register Nurse. When conversing on phone with one sister everything is fine. Meet in public with other family members i am ignored. However, another sister does not talk to me at all. She always wanted to be the best in the family. We all have respected that.regardless of their behavior i still respect them. But, I wonder why they behave the way they do. They talk about me behind my back to other family and friends. I lose my older sister 10yrs ago. She had a home. It was not paid off when she passed away. So, We assumed the mortgage. I am paiding that mortgage alone right now. Often ask for assistant, but no one helps. With that I still support my family. I feel lots of jealous. Do you think it could a possiblity?
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Re: Jealous people
by ajay chandarana on Sunday 12/Nov/2006, @08:27
this is the epitomy of jealousy. every1 your kid brother your dear mother, your bastard father turns on you like a pack of hounds, and says: u little boy r mental. my worst nightmare. instead of live and let live, what do they do? the rascals lock me up in a psychisatric ward, dope me up and induce me 2 commit suicide. but how often does that turn out successful? if there was GOD, he would answer our prayers, instead we are cursed with psychiatrists asking do u hear voices? NO! still we'll give u drugs just 2 be on the safe side. thats my tragedy. i hadn't even seen or done much of life, and i'm spasticated at 22. nowhere 2 go but a slow death. is this how value today's young generation?
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Re: Jealous people
by ajay chandarana on Sunday 12/Nov/2006, @08:27
this is the epitomy of jealousy. every1 your kid brother your dear mother, your bastard father turns on you like a pack of hounds, and says: u little boy r mental. my worst nightmare. instead of live and let live, what do they do? the rascals lock me up in a psychisatric ward, dope me up and induce me 2 commit suicide. but how often does that turn out successful? if there was GOD, he would answer our prayers, instead we are cursed with psychiatrists asking do u hear voices? NO! still we'll give u drugs just 2 be on the safe side. thats my tragedy. i hadn't even seen or done much of life, and i'm spasticated at 22. nowhere 2 go but a slow death. is this how value today's young generation?
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Re: Jealous people
by Rick on Thursday 15/Feb/2007, @01:25
I must say all of you have very interesting comments and have had extraordinary experiences. I am impressed with all of you that have held on to your dignity despite your negative feedback from others. I too have been a victim of the almighty Jealousy monster and know it's not an easy thing to fight especially when you know in your heart and soul that your not trying to hurt anyone. My family treats me like I think I am better than they are. I live clean and set standards for the way my life is led. I also set an example at work and don't make many mistakes and am criticized for thinking I am better than they are. I press on. Morals and Ethics alike I treat with high regard, don't tell me it's black when I know it is white, and don't try to shove something down my throat that I know is wrong and try to make me accept it as right because I won't do it. I don't think I am better than I others I do think I have more common sense than most but I don't treat people with disrespect however it doesn't change the way they react towards me. Killing people with kindness doesn't seem to work so I just press on. I have given the matter a lot of thought at times and the conclusion is that they want to advance to the next level as I have but they are so caught up in their world and the things in it that they can't and some won't because it's scary (a change) and that would put them in the same light as me. No one wants to be unpopular. I won't lower my standards just to fit in I refused to do it when I was an insecure teen I won't do it as a 40 yr. old adult. Stay strong to all of you persevere and just remember they live their lives and you need to live yours.
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Re: Jealous people
by RR on Thursday 15/Nov/2007, @21:36
Smart responses. I have my own experience dealing with jealousy (being the perpetrator and the victim). The short version: basically don't be mean back, but stay away from them as much as possible.

When I was a jealous, pitiful small person:
I hurt people who didn't even deserve it, but my own pettiness and ignorance made me impulsively act that way. I look back and see what were the reasons. My ex-girlfriend was a very materialistic woman who compared me to her other friend's boyfriends in terms of money,status etc and did flirt with other guys, and I think that had some aspect to it. I was also mixed in with the wrong crowd after high school (drugs, alchohol, etc), where all we did was watch tv and put each other down. Past is the past, but the smartest thing to have done would be to have left those losers, break up with that low-self esteem girlfriend (which I finally did thank God) and find positive people to show me the way. I still feel shame every time I think of the people I hurt, even those I apologized to, but realize God forgives.

Now:
Now I am doing pretty well. I know the direction to go. I cleaned up my act. Starting to get my shit together and am happy and confident. Ditched the lame GF and am having fun. Found good friends. Now I am on the other end (getting attacked) and it is not so great (and also made me realize how obnoxious I was before). Its funny because people who said jealousy can run in the family are SOOO right. My own brother takes every opportunity to mention every error, flaw, mistake and miscalculation I commit. My father is starting to belittle me and trying to make me feel stupid in our conversations. When I start to get into a negative, depressed mood, they start becoming nice and understanding again. I don't blame them because having wrestled with it myself they are in the mindset of competition, comparison, and scarcity. I guess jealous people are not bad inherently, they just have a negative perspective.

Like other people have said, its better to be forgiving and somewhat distant with these types of people. You may even have to play politics and find a good support group in your social circle if things get ugly. This world is indeed dirty. Even at my church people backstab, gossip, etc. Its human nature. When I tried to settle into a new church, these are things that helped me out that might help you too:
1) keep mouth shut about accomplishments and don't act fake or kiss ass. Most people will be happy for you but there are some who go out of their way to get a public reaction from you.
2) Have an established value system to treat others as you wish to be treated. Kind acts don't hurt. Compliment if you really mean it. Doing so will give you a basic reputation, so that when gossip starts, it is the gossiper that gets into trouble and not you.
3) Absolutely, if you feel someone does not like you from the get-go, do not try to be their friend. Ohh ho ho from my experience, this just gives them more invitation to wrong you. Just ignore them if you get a hunch. There are plenty of people who will like positive people.
4)Don't fight back eye for an eye, but don't tolerate second-class behavior like bossiness, condescending tones, lying, etc. Just walk away and ignore.
5)people who don't know you but help you anyways are usually the people you want to be friends with. And for some reason, people you admire and like somehow admire and like you too! It's weird but awesome.
6)if a person is cool to you most of the time but occasionally acts negatively toward you, just ignore that. No one is perfect right? Unless they gossiped and planned something to hurt you LOL.
7) if there is already an established group, and they are not that outreaching towards you, there might be a reason.
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Re: Jealous people
by t on Saturday 24/Nov/2007, @19:05
is there somthing I can do to make it even more uncomfortable for them!
is there any tricks of the trade
i hate those basterds
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